BEFORE YOU SLEEP
Unweighting Yourself
(When You've Already Tried Everything)
A different conversation about weight, metabolism, and body image — honest, grounded, and aligned with how your body actually works.
The real truth about weight — the part no one says out loud, but everyone secretly knows.
Weight isn’t just about food, discipline, or “trying harder.”
And you already know that, because if effort alone worked, you wouldn’t be here..
What makes weight so painfully frustrating isn’t just the number on a scale — it’s the stories, reactions, and emotional spirals that come with it:
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the pressure to fix it
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the shame of not fixing it fast enough
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the constant tracking, obsessing, second-guessing
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the feeling that your body has a mind of its own
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the exhausting judgment, inside and out
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the heartbreak of thinking “Why is this so hard for me?”
And the worst part?
You’ve probably blamed yourself when none of this is your fault.
Weight isn’t the problem. The emotional meaning your body learned to attach to it is.
Here’s the thing almost nobody talks about:
Your body learned — long ago — that your current weight is safe.
Not healthy.
Not ideal.
Just safe.
Your nervous system has a built-in survival calculator called a set point, and that set point gets shaped by experiences, emotions, stress, and what your body had to do to keep you afloat.
For many people:
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Staying heavier once meant staying invisible
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Weight meant stability during chaos
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Food meant comfort when nothing else worked
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Or the body simply braced during stress and never un-braced
So your weight set point isn’t stuck.
It’s protecting you.
Which means you’re not fighting your willpower — you’re fighting your biology’s fabulous, powerful, but outdated safety programming.
INTRODUCING
WHY WEIGHT HYPNO-SOMATIC AUDIOS
21 NIGHTS of an entirely new way to work on weight, body image, body composition, exercise & food!
I love these. It's like you wrote them just for me!
- ELLEN S. - (& ADA) - (& JEN B.) -
I just kept having these 'wow' moments. It all makes so much sense! I can let myself believe these, NOT because I'm letting myself off the hook, but because it feels TRUE!
- SANDY R. -
I'm just...feeling different. I'm not trying to feel different. It's just easy to dance around my living room until I sweat. It's just easy to have healthy food. I forgot I had cookies in the house ME! That's just crazy!.
- CAITLYN P -
If your body learned to keep weight for emotional safety, then emotional safety is how it changes.
This is the part diets can’t touch, and mindset alone can’t override.
Your set point is tied to:
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stored emotional memory
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past overwhelm
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nervous system “contracts” your body made during hard times
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inherited emotional patterns
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metabolic shifts created during stress or emotional shock
You don’t change a set point by force.
You change it by helping your system feel safe enough to recalculate.
And that’s exactly what these audios are designed to do.
Sign me up!
Unweighting Yourself works differently (and why it works)
It speaks to the part of you that actually controls weight — your survival brain.
Each audio blends three modalities that work together to update the emotional-and-physiological imprint your body is protecting:
What's Included:
This is a 21 night set of audios that you can listen to at your leisure.
Each night provides you with insights, a gentle walk into relaxation, a round of NAP to clear any connections (including inherited trauma) around that night's topic, and ends with a round of 'positive NAP' to help you set in your new agreement with yourself.
All you have to do is relax, hit play, and listen.
These audios are perfect to listen to in bed, letting your subconscious mind relax and release old patterns that no longer serve you.
NIGHT #1: Safety in Visibility
"If people notice me, I'm not safe."
Unlocks: Comfort being seen, easier weight release without fear spikes.
NIGHT #2: Food as Stability
“If I don’t have food, I won’t feel grounded.”
Unlocks: Internal stability, decreased urgency around food.
NIGHT #3: Conflict-Avoidance Weight
“If I take up more space, people leave me alone.”
Unlocks: Healthy approach to conflict, empowered communication.
Night #4: Metabolic Freeze Pattern
Night #5: The Over-Giver's Weight
Night #6: Childhood Comfort Loop
Night #7: Rebellion Eating
Night #8: Unresolved Grief Weight
Night #9: Inherited Scarcity Imprint
Night #10: Identity as "The Big One / The Strong One"
Night #11: Self-Punishment Loop
Night #12: Slowed Metabolism From Overdoing
Night #13: Fear of Atttracting Unwanted Attention
Night #14: Nourishment Confusion
Night #15: Emotional Suppression Weight
Night #16: The "Always on Alert" Body
Night #17: Fear of Failure / Fear of Success
Night #18: Dissociation Eating
Night #19: Resistance to Pleasure
Night #20: All-or-Nothing Survival Pattern
Night #21: The Body Loyalty Imprint
Gentle Hypnosis
The nervous system entry point
Hypnosis helps your system move out of vigilance and into a soft, open, receptive state.
Not zonked out.
Not “mind-controlled.”
Just relaxed enough for your body to finally receive new safety information.
In this state, old survival contracts loosen.
New messages land.
And change feels possible — sometimes for the first time in years.
Somatic Work
Releasing the emotional charge stored in your physiology
This is where the deeper shift happens.
Somatic work helps unwind:
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protective bracing
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chronic tension patterns
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emotional memories stored in the body
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stuck stress loops
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metabolic shutdown responses
When your system stops bracing, it stops holding weight for safety.
NAP ™ - The New Agreement Process
Rewriting the root-level decisions your body made during stress
NAP is a simple repeat-after-me process that helps you locate and shift the original imprint your body made when life felt too hard, too fast, or too much.
Imprints like:
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“It’s safer if I stay bigger.”
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“Change isn’t safe.”
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“This buffer keeps me okay.”
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“Food is stability.”
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“Losing weight will bring pain.”
NAP doesn’t fight these.
It renegotiates them — gently, truthfully, and in a way the body trusts.
When the agreement changes, the set point can finally change.
What these audios are (And what they're not):
They’re not:
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dieting
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affirmations
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mindset hacks
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enforced positivity bypassing
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lectures
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something you have to work at
They are:
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grounding
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honest
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emotionally relieving
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physiologically calming
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deeply regulating
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designed for the part of you that runs the show
You don’t need to pay attention.
You don’t need to “try.”
You can fall asleep — many people do.
They work because they speak the language your body listens to.
HI! We are Dana & Colleen
Colleen and Dana have dedicated their time, energy and passion towards becoming professional listeners, and they’re highly sought after to use and teach conscious communication in all aspects of their work.
Dana created The Black Belt Mind in part to emphasize the importance and value of building your ability to authentically and transparently listen to yourself, and how this in turn directly impacts your ability to actually hear and listen to others.
Colleen’s use of NAP (the New Agreement Process) allows her to help you clear old issues as they arise in a class, letting you step forward with an increasingly clean slate.
For the people who’ve ‘tried everything’ — this is for you.
If you’ve ever felt like:
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“My body just won’t let go.”
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“Something deeper is going on.”
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“It feels like it’s not in my control.”
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“I don’t know why this is so hard.”
…you’re right. Something deeper was going on.
And now we’re finally listening to it.
We're working with it, instead of against it.
UNWEIGHTING YOURSELF
Get Started Now:
What is NAP?
The New Agreement Process is a simple “repeat after me” process that tracks trauma back to its roots. It’s a multifaceted, interdisciplinary healing experience that leads to lasting change and rapid transformation.
These audios also use Ancestral NAP to help you clear issues on a deeper level than ever before.
Some of the The Science (For Our Fellow Nerds)
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Emotional memories stored in the amygdala influence metabolism and weight-related behaviors.
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Stress and emotional learning alter hypothalamic circuits that regulate weight set points.
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Early-life stress creates long-lasting metabolic and appetite shifts via cortisol and HPA-axis patterns.
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Weight is actively defended by metabolic and hormonal mechanisms — often overriding intentional weight loss.
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Emotional associations with body size shape eating patterns, metabolic rate, and weight stability over time.
Translation:
Your weight set point is real, and it is emotional and biological.
And yes — it can change.
Set-Point Theory & Weight Regulation
• Cleveland Clinic overview of metabolic set-point and weight defense mechanisms
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/set-point-theory
• Leibel RL, Rosenbaum M, Hirsch J. Changes in energy expenditure resulting from altered body weight.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21173874/
Emotions, Body Image & Feedback Loops
• Lowe, M., & Butryn, M. Hedonic hunger: A new dimension of appetite?
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28070357/
Early Life Stress & Metabolic Programming
• Maniam, J., Antoniadis, C., & Morris, M. Early life stress, HPA axis, and energy balance.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35203274/
Stress, Reward Pathways & Eating Behaviour
• Adam, T., & Epel, E. Stress, eating, and the reward system.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2831158/